Quarter-life Crisis

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.

You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't.

One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused.

Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person.

One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap.Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it.

We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out - Pream Anand AKA DJ BABY JOE BLACK

Something to think about

Be sure to read all the way to the end.

Here is a tough question for you:

You are driving down the road in your car on a wild, stormy night, when you pass

by a bus stop and you see three people waiting for the bus:

1. An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.

2. An old friend who once saved your life.

3. The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.

Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing that there could only be

one passenger in your car?

Think before you continue reading.

This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once actually used as part of a job application.

You could pick up the old lady, because she is going die today, and thus you should

save her first. Or you could take the old friend because he once saved your life,

and this would be the perfect chance to pay him back. However, you may never be

able to find your perfect mate again.

The candidate who was hired (out of 200 applicants) had no trouble coming

up with his answer. He simply answered: "I would give the car keys to my

old friend and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind

and wait for the bus with the partner of my dreams."

Sometimes, we gain more if we are able to give up our stubborn thought

limitations. Never forget to "Think Outside of the Box."

However, the correct answer is to run the old lady over and put her out of

her misery, have sex with the perfect partner against the bus stop, then

drive off with the old friend for some beers - Pream Anand AKA DJ BABY JOE BLACK

Overcoming Storms in Life

Dear Ladies and Gentlemen, This is a very deep message that i am going to tell about now, and I am sure that everyone has their own stories based on the challenges and their overcoming. But today we will concentrate on the issue of overcoming. In this light, it is important to emphasize the postulate that all challenges are timely, and they are not accidental. God tests us in such way. You cannot realize the real value of your life if you have not compared it to something. God sends us trials so that we could understand the deepness of His goodwill and love. No one is alone until he has his faith. The Bible has such words: "God withdrew from him, in order to test him, that He might know all that was in his heart" (Chronicles 32:31 NKJ). So, you see that even in His withdrawal, God is always with us. Sending us trials and challenges, He wants to demonstrate us the real power we have inside, the real power he gave us. Often we fail to use it properly, because we don't know how strong we are. In order to help us see our values He assigned us to, He sends us trials. There is no sense in crying over the trouble - "the best way out is always through", as Robert Frost claimed. So, you should not concentrate on your problems, but rather on the way how to solve them. Look forward, because life is beautiful, and God created it for us. "That which does not kill us makes us stronger" - these words of the famous philosopher demonstrate that we are the instruments in the hands of God. Remember, how many times you thought that this was the hardest thing you've ever done. Then you experience something even harder, and you understand that you became stronger. Now you can endure even more. This is the eternal process of human development. I have met a lot of people who overcame the storms of life with dignity and faith. they all admit, that these challenges made their lives brighter. They understood the real value of life - it is invaluable. And there is no sense in suffering - accept it and overcome. This is life. It does not consist of dreams and happy days, but of alternation of days and nights - both happy and miserable. Thus, another sense of adversity comes to the foreground - it makes us closer to our destiny. Japanese proverb says, "Fall seven times, stand up eight" - and this eighth may be lucky chance which will bring you to your happiness. May be not, but then you'll have to believe, fight and stand up as much as it will be needed. Storms of life are transient, no matter how hard they are - some day you will definitely reach your desired peaceful shore. 

Just listen to the words written in the Holy Bible: "Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been proved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him" (JAMES 1:12-13, 16-17 NKJ). Temptation to yield - overcome it! Temptation to blame God, fate and everybody around you in all your troubles - overcome it! All your life is the sequence of choices. When a person makes his choice in favor of faith - he wins! Overcoming adversities and demonstrating strong will and belief, a human will obtain the "crown" - for he has shown his love to God, by accepting all challenges as needed and coping with them with the name of God on the lips. And God loves us, helps us and support us, and this is the main truth a person should remember when fighting with difficulties in life. Don't be alone in your struggle, accept it and entrust to your God. For, as He told, "…When you pass through the waters I will be with you; when you pass through rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I Am the Lord…your Savior." (Isaiah 43:2, NIV). All our mundane difficulties may seem crucial and catastrophic to us, but in fact they are only the episodes in the history of the humanity. Each life is saint and important in the eyes of God, so don't thin your faith and sacrifice are inessential. They mean a lot, especially when they are heartfelt and sincere   - Pream Anand aka DJ BABY JOE BLACK

Importance of Friendships

  Throughout the many unique and individual experiences I went through, the friendships that I made were one in a million.  These friends shaped me and formed me in so many ways.  I have learned an unfathomable amount through friendships as well as accumulating a lot of personal growth.  The significance of friendships in my own Malaysian experience has taught me unique lessons, an open mind, respect, growth, and has given me a strong feeling for who I am. During my life I have been exposed to many kinds of people of all ages and ethnicities which have taught me things that I may have never learned.Thinking back, through all the memories and times, I got a taste of each persons personality in my personal experiences with them. I found many of those people who I enjoy to be with because we share that common ground that lets you be yourself and feel comfortable. It really feels good to gave friends on the same level as you. Friendship is a very personal and unique thing.  No two relation between any two people will ever be the same because only those people know what they have been through or shared together.  This is what makes friendship such an exceptional thing. A large part of friendship is learning lessons together, and for almost everything in the world there is a lesson that must be learned. Learning these lessons through friendships is a very powerful and exceptional thing.  These lessons have varied from one extreme to the other in my life and have changed and shaped a large majority of my views and perceptions.  Learning any lesson with a friend, be it significant or not, will bring you closer together; and furthermore that lesson that you learned was done in your own way which only you will have felt and experienced.  Some important lessons that had precedence in my life were about life in general, love, happiness, fear and a handful of other feelings.  From the time of my first friend I have begun learning about life, basically what I like to do and what I am all about.  Only when you can truly be yourself around a person or people is when you start to learn about yourself.  And the thing is that what you did or what you or someone else did, when it comes down to it, you did it and no one else.  No one else could feel the way you did or acted or reacted the way you personally did.  That aspect makes it more unique than anything else. So many feelings have been felt by myself about other friends that it would be impossible to even sum up.  A friendship is the only thing that can teach you some things about yourself, and others as well.Through friendships I have accumulated a very open-mind by allowing myself to really get into a person and learn what they are all about.  When you learn a significant amount about other people and their lives, one can look back and reflect on your own life.  I could never walk up to a person with my head filled with prejudgments.  This is based on my own experiences with so many people where I might of met them thinking something in my head, but when I really got to know them I was so surprised because they turned out to be so opposite.  I am grateful for the things I have learned from my friends because some people might never achieve that open mind, but that is only my unique personal experience. Many times I wonder how I met some of the people I did or did some of the things that I did with some people?  My personal answer is that I believe that the people I met and things I did were all meant to happen for a reason that is unknown to me, but I do know that they were meant to happen to me and only me.  Maybe I am being equipped with knowledge and experiences that will help me in my future life.Through my experiences with friends, a major lesson I learned was respect.  A close, strong friendship is a powerful friendship because that is when you know that you can always count on that person, and through that aspect a large respect can be formed.  When I began to play sports is when I first felt these feelings of great respect and care for another person. There is something about sports, the winning together, the losing together, the good and the bad, that seems to bring people closer together.  When you're playing a football game in the fourth quarter, in the pouring rain and biting cold, with the sweat stinging your eyes and you need to stop the other team on the 1 yard line.  You look around then and you know who you're friends are.  You can know that no matter whether you win or lose, the team and you¹re friends will still be there.  Knowing that makes me feel a great respect for them. I have personally grown a great deal through the experiences with every friendship I have had.  And the unique part of that is that the ways in which I have grown are mine alone and could never be exactly experienced by another person.  By allowing myself to grow with others I have had a vast number of their experiences in which I could look at and then make my decision based on what I know from them and myself, where on the other hand some may only have their own experiences to base their decisions. In conclusion, the friendships that I personally made were unique and could never be exactly the same for another person.  I have learned an unfathomable amount about life, love, and everything and that has made me grow.  The significance of friendship in my own american experience taught me valuable lessons, an open mind, respect, growth and has given me the basis of who I am today. Many varied lessons that I experienced with friends have changed and shaped a large part of my views and perceptions.  I found that learning lessons with friends brings you closer together.  Only with a friendship can some things be felt and learned.An extremely important thing I got out of friendship was achieving an open mind.  This was achieved through a diverse set of friends that had a wide range of lifestyles and views, and I got to see them all. I learned a great respect for my friends and it has made my friendships strong.  Furthermore, I grew a great deal from all the experiences I went through with my friends.  Sometimes a friend is the only teacher for some lessons.  A friendship is something very personal and powerful and plays an important and unique role in my life - Pream Anand Aka Dj Baby Joe Black

Haters make me FAMOUS !!!

Definition: A person that simply cannot be happy for another person's success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person. 

I noticed when I have my shit together, happy and successful....I have lotsa haters but its expected when I am an upcoming INDIAN.People are bored and have nothing better to do. Meanwhile I'm on my grind and trying to make something of myself. But lately its been more and more haters. Frankly, I could care less. As ambitious I am, I felt devoted enough to write my haters a special letter...expressing my love for their reckless actions

Dear Haters,

I want to thank you for all the foul names you have called me, all the negativity and envy has really made me the man I am today. I cannot thank you enough for the persistence of your actions. The condescending tone when you see me in public and how can I forget that fake smile. I want to thank you for speaking ill of my family and doubting success. In the good words of GOD "Please don't leave me hater, I need you hater". 

I wanted to ask, did you end up getting checked for that disease? did you manage to get the prescribed medications of your current condition for hating me? I know a little part of you competes with me but I will surely see you at the finish line. I kind of feel sorry for you, instead of all this anger...why don't you compose that into a goal? Do not blame your parents for not raising you with all the qualities and abilities that I have obtain in my life,Its not their fault but truly yours,Of course I am thankful to your parents for not having an abortion when your mum was expecting you.If not I would not have a challenger now in my life.So please keep up the race in your life.....if you need some tips,here is goes !!! The challenge in life was neva to beat or compete with your opponent but only to challenge yourself.So all the best in this new year 2013....

Sincerely,Pream Anand aka DJ BABY JOE BLACK